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I don’t feel loved anymore

Dear Insight,

I am writing to you today to share my thoughts and feelings regarding my current love relationship. Over the last few months, I have noticed a significant shift in the way I feel within this relationship. Initially, everything was filled with love, warmth, and affection, but recently, I have been struggling with feeling unloved and unappreciated.

We spent quality time together, expressed our affection openly, and made each other feel valued. However, as time has passed, I have noticed a change in my partner's behavior. They seem distant, less affectionate, and disinterested in nurturing our relationship.

This change in dynamic has taken a toll on my emotional well-being. I find myself feeling lonely, and unimportant, and questioning my own worth within the relationship. The lack of affection and appreciation has left me feeling emotionally drained and disconnected.

How can I address these feelings of being unloved and unappreciated within my relationship? I long to reconnect with the love and warmth that once filled our bond, but I am uncertain of the steps to take.

I eagerly await your response and any insights that could help me navigate this challenging phase in my relationship.

Thank you so much in advance.

Casey


Dear Casey, thank you for sharing such private concerns. Feeling unloved in a relationship is a sentiment that anyone can experience. However, it is more common in long-term relationships where routine and boredom can gradually take their toll.

We all crave that warm, comforting feeling of being loved. But when it's missing, it's like a piece of us is lost. Sometimes, it's because of what's happening between partners or outside forces. Yet, it can also run much deeper, tapping into personal struggles that stretch far beyond the relationship itself.

I wouldn't bet on any particular reason since I would need more detailed information, but different causes can lead you to feel unwanted or unloved. Some may refer directly to yourself beyond the relationship. For example:

  • Jealousy
  • Insecurities
  • Sexual incompatibility
  • Unresolved traumas
  • Previous experiences of rejection by your partner

However, there are other reasons focused entirely on your partner, since it may seem that they no longer love you when, in reality, it is another problem that affects their life and prevents them from expressing affection. For example:

  • Stress
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Low libido
  • Self-esteem problems
  • Attachment problems
  • Bad streak at work
  • Mental or physical exhaustion

How to resolve this situation? Some advice:

  • Reflect on the feeling of not feeling loved by yourself. Is it possible that your jealousy, feelings of insecurity, or other personal issues are interfering with your relationship? It's time to reflect, isolate the cause, and endeavor to find a solution.
  • Do you value yourself? Maybe you're seeking appreciation from your partner that you can't give yourself. Start by valuing yourself, and being emotionally independent, without monopolizing your partner's attention.
  • Do you recognize your achievements? You must also be able to recognize your achievements, avoiding excessive self-demand. The health of your relationship also depends on each member's ability to love each other.
  • Talk to your partner. It's not about blaming, attacking, or reproaching; it's about having a conversation about what you feel, how each of you perceives the problem (if both parties perceive it), and how you both feel about it.
  • Keep the passion alive. Long-term relationships can lose their spark over time. Rejuvenate your romantic and sexual energy by going out together, dining at a romantic restaurant, trying new experiences in your sex life, or adding special touches to your intimate moments.

However, if self-reflection and conversation with your partner have not helped improve the situation, the solution may come from couples therapy. This could either help to get your relationship back on track or assist in deciding to separate.

I hope this truly helps you and wish you luck in your journey to feeling better.

In addition, if you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call or text 988 or chat 988lifeline.org. Disaster Distress Helpline: CALL or TEXT 1-800-985-5990 (press 2 for Spanish)

You can also contact The Samaritans for emotional support 24 hours a day - in full confidence. Call 116 123 - it's FREE.

For immediate assistance or if you are in crisis, please consider reaching out to the following hotlines:

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
  • Crisis Text Line: Text "HOME" to 741741

Remember that while these resources can provide valuable information, it's essential to consult with a mental health professional, such as a therapist or psychiatrist, for a personalized assessment and treatment plan tailored to your specific needs. The resources you choose may depend on the severity of your stress and your personal preferences. It's important to find the support that works best for you, whether that's through professional therapy, self-help tools, or a combination of approaches. If your stress is overwhelming or persistent, consider reaching out to a mental health professional for personalized guidance and support.

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